Not calling someone unfriendly and just focusing on the

    conversation/technical details at hand, would be much more friendly..

    even considering friendship wasn't the subject of discussion in the

    first place.
Someone else attacked me on this list for not discussing this with

Theo.  I explained the reason in the gentlest way I could think of.

If you wish we were not discussing the subject, you had best take it

up with him.